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But I'm harder, and I don't mean the outer shell, I mean the Inner Zen of my Soul. And therefore, my mind.
I'll tell you what this post is about..
You know, sometimes, when people SNAP and you can see their struggle, realizing they are tripping themselves up like that ? And you find yourself trying to figure out which way to help & assist ? Yap.
I decided to write about this.
There is one expression I know that fits it perfectly,.. No, first of all .. I HATE DRAMA. I don't care what it is you dealing with, but let me out of it. And so far, DRAMA SEEMS TO HATE ME, TOO. So we never see each other. Not so recently.
I know 2012 is coming up and as a cleansing process all the stinky stuff is coming up to the surface in each and every one of us as well as on planet Earth in general.
But if I would follow that thought I'd be sitting somewhere all by myself with a piece of bread and peace of mind, just in order to avoid all of it. So moving on with the topic.
Those same people who snap... Oh boy I just realized it does sound a lot like complaining, but there's a point. Hold on.. those people who snap at you
THEY SUFFER THE MOST
They can't forgive themselves for what they've done, so they are embarrassed to even look at you or they are busy to make it look like it's your fault. Anyway, they're ego tripping instead of looking at their own behaviour and belief systems. And of course they would never apologize. EVER.
I had this boyfriend once, the one I've mentioned at the beginning of my writings, - and I am not lying to you - it took him 5 DAYS to apologize for something that happened out of a very small communication problem. I assure you, it was not my fault ,) but it was simple insanity .. the word overreaction is not suitable to describe what followed this jumble... The reaction was more of a stenchy explosion of words, attitude and facial expressions. Let me tell you, no horror movie could compete with that. The smell of that stenchy mist was the kind that settles in and stays, polluting everything around. Let alone the KIND OF ENERGY that follows it. So at some point you just see people with smudged faces everywhere. Yeah, that kind.
Oh btw. the German saying goes 'To draw the devil on the wall', meaning to be afraid of the things that aren't even there, but you expect them so much they appear to you on the wall and if they don't - you simply draw them.
Helps so much..you know.
The smelly part is the worst. People don't talk, avoid eye contact.. all kinds of stuff.
And mostly, they do know they were wrong. If they don't it's actually the worst scenario. Get out of it now.
And I mean it. You are not an accredited psychologist - unless you are - nobody's paying you for your time and God knows what the results are gonna be like..PLEASE..
I'm not even saying APOLOGIZE, although I've mentioned it before.. But can you just not make such a big DUCKING deal out of it ?!! MOVE ON! You screamed, you crashed furniture, you slapped someone - take your time to analyse everything, but GET THE HEAVEN OVER IT ALREADY! No one can stand a person who looks stinky, because he probably feels stinky, who's behaviour is stinky and who IS STINKY in all kinds of ways as a result of it ALL the time...
Because of something that happened once. And now it's the end of the world.
WHAT THE BARK IS WRONG WITH YOU ?
I've heard all kinds of stories,.. They want you out of the apartment, they wouldn't give away no cigarettes no more, it is over. UNTIL ALL BECOMES NORMAL AGAIN ! Like in a week or two.
WHY WAIT for such a long time to pass ?!
What's happened to people, becoming so rude and inattentive to each other ?!
There's always a person who can take more. The good news is, it is the person who has the POWER TO CHANGE THE WORLD. Yes, I mean it - not only and simply one particular situation or person. The world. So give yourself some credit if you find yourself being that person.
Because THE LIGHT always brightens up a darkened room. And everybody going in a dark room looks for the LIGHT, NATURALLY..
In the earlier days that someone was usually the wife . Them girls had to be supportive of every junk the man had to pull on the family, be there and never say a word against his ideas.
Women, other than men, are more bound to nature and are mostly more in their element at home, within the family - on the Inside. Also, inside the mind. The men, therefore, have more experience on the Outside - socially and professionally. They seem to be at their best as soon as they set one foot out of the door. Which makes me think of the antique saying
'HOW WITHIN, SO WITHOUT'
because maybe that is the main principal of the family and at the same time the base for the personality that each child develops and shows off outside the family later in life. How within family, so without. The outside always mirrors the Inside.
Back to the present the submissive crowd is well spread through both gender types of the Earthy billions.
Still leaving us with the question: 'WHAT'S WRONG ?' Why those who seem to be completely out of their minds and GAGA have to mess everything up ? Although I love GAGA, her song 'Born this way' immediately comes to mind, which doesn't put me anywhere near the solution to this problem..
But why is it, that you always happen to know at least one insane person who keeps appearing in your life one way or another and YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH THAT. WHY ?
Maybe that is because there was something not intact inside of their family as they were little children. So they turned out this way. OR, regardless of their past, they are still PEOPLE WHO CAN TEACH or show others something JUST LIKE ANYONE OF US.
You see, the questioning is getting bigger here already..
Which makes me return to the point I was trying to make earlier but then forgot : WHAT IF WE REALLY ARE self representive in the personalities of those who we meet ? It would mean I am insane to a shredded fraction, right.. BUT then again, you can not possibly attract everyone into your life just because you share an attitude!!!. SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST PLAIN NUTS. And nuts is the last thing you need in your life 'cause it's contageous. It has nothing to do with YOU when people are nuts, it's their twisted brain body that causes them to be so, NOT YOU, trust me.
So LEARN YOUR LESSON QUICKLY AND LAVE, leave now unless .. forget about it, just LEAVE.
ALSO: Stop trying to change everybody and talk to them.
Some people will let you do that, some not. If you really care about yourself think twice before engaging in some sort of remedy talk - they might not get you and you'll get upset. I would take a second to think about it, though if the pattern seems to reappear in your life...
YOU CAN ONLY TRY TO HELP another in case you see clearly HOW you can do it. If you don't know that much at the moment you can always talk later. But you need a strategy and you must not forget about it. We tend to forget about things or choose not to do anything about them because they feel uncomfortable. NEVERTHELESS, CHANGE HAPPENS WHEN PEOPLE WANT & DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, so if we forget things stay the same or get worse.
It's so sad though. You see people getting in their own way sometimes, just like I did yesterday. And you need to be reallly smart not to act on your first impulses but to breathe in deeply and ponder upon your own thoughts and solutions to the problem first. Sometimes you'll, and sometimes you won't. But whatever you do, put some space and time between you and that person or situation to reflect and learn from that experience.
Because one thing I've learned is that you can't be your best in that red hot minute. Yes you can, but you have to be as skilled as an ace..
So don't be too hard on yourself or on any other participant in the story, but DO IT BETTER next time. You can PRACTICE IT over and over in your mind. Reassemble your own definitions and ask yourself one very important question:
HOW IS THIS BENIFICIAL FOR ME, THAT I ACT THE WAY I DO WHEN THE SITUATION OCCURES ? IT IS VERY IMPORTANT.
HAVE A GOOD TIME Y'ALL,
LOOVE, ME ❤
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