IS THERE A FIX ON ANYTHING ?

Or is change possible ? Still talking about romantic and personal relationships..well, we'll stick with romantic ones for now. Looking at a picture of  technical tools, it made me think of mending broken things together and whether it is possible in a relationship. I think it is.

Therefore you'll need a tool, two broken pieces and lots of time and energy. Patience, probably, too and you will  need another very sticky little thing referred to as CLEAR GOAL and an INTENTION that is at least as clear as the goal so you wouldn't mislead yourself. That would be the goal of mending a falling - I wouldn't say apart - relationship, but falling. It's like there's no real separation of the pieces but they are holding together by the last bit of the extant connection and a good will.

Then I thought, what do we require when we have two pieces to glue together ? Well, first we need to make sure we have the matching two pieces and they are really meant to be glued together. Like, say, a vase brakes in two pieces - you can collect them and mend - no biggie. If the vase brakes in 5 pieces and one falls out the window and brakes into 20 other ones - very much a biggie and it's probably not meant to be. Same thing with those pieces that are shaped so differently there is no way they'd fit together. Better off bying a different vase and making sure it's a solid one.

Going further in the thought I thought of my university time and the things we learned in and about chemistry. Particularly about two things: what combines with what and how  and  what do you do when putting two things together to unite them (surface chemistry, very interesting thing, you should check it out).

First and foremost - Like Attracts Like . Oil goes with oil, water with water etc. And second, when putting things together using adhesive, YOU FIRST NEED TO CLEAN THE SURFACE to make sure the things are going to hold together for longer than long - for an eternity. This requires some management by perception and sensitivity, no overloading of the repared section and a good eye on it at all times. But first you need to make sure the surface is clean, or - clean it.
Which means, speaking figuratively, to observe the dirt on both sides and really come close to it and probably closer than you would like to in order to understand and analyse what it is, where it came from and to choose the right surface-active agent to wipe it clean, scrub it down or what is otherwise necessary to make sure we have a good new surfaces to work on and with to make them stick together. Now that wasn't as figuratively as promised, was it ?

That's why I keep reminding you to get rid of your 'STAINS ON THE TABLE CLOTH' first before starting something new with the same partner or not, but in this case, WITH the same one. And I realize this sounds more like a piece of advice for women, at least the overall theme of it. But I actually mean BOTH SIDES..of the pieces to be prepared and repared..

So what does it really mean ? I'll tell you: Talking without blame or any connotation of it and as objectively as possible, avoiding word collaborations like 'You Always'...do/say/promise - it's never true and you know it plus you only say that because you piled it up and now it has to come out - the anger that is.. Guess why ?
Failure of communication: at the right time, in the right emotional place and the appropriate environment. Why do you think people burst out ? They are dud to communicate their needs and opinions successfully to their partner. Most commonly they don't do their part at all, preferring to sit it out.

And now comes the shocker: the actual MEANING OF the word COMMUNICATION, according to wikipedia, implies that valuable information is shared successfully, which means the other party actually does understand what you mean by saying all these words with mimics and body language you give out, even the tone of your voice counts.

It gets even more interesting. I found out that there is a concrete term called the Communication Noise - it represents the obsticles in getting the information across, which can be actual noise, hindering the recipient to literally hear you, because of construction work, for instance. OR - an existant psychologycal noise such as attitude, great emotions and other negative feelings and connotation. It distracts your counterpart from focusing and prevents from understanding you alltogether. Subjectivity actually may very well draw you apart rather than together. Save yourself, avert the drama. Prepare yourself  like for a school report before you talk the talk:  STRUCTURE your THOUGHT, make NOTES and memorize everything you want to say until it becomes rote. Objectivity and a CLEAR INTENTION to improve your communication with each other and therefore understanding, can be your friends forever. And they are.

Remember why you got together in the first place, what attracted and allured you to each other, ponder upon that thought. SEE THE GOOD AND THE GOOD WILL SEE(K) YOU. When you do that, when you get rid of all the obsticles in your way and remove all the dirt - you will be able to start off from a clean slate so you can glue yourselves together for good ALL BY YOURSELVES (as long as both want to participate).

HAPPY TIMES, no ?

GOOD DAY TO EVERYONE AND GOOD NIGHT,

LOOOVE, ME ❤