It's so hard sometimes..

But I'm harder, and I don't mean the outer shell, I mean the Inner Zen of my Soul. And therefore, my mind.

I'll tell you what this post is about..

You know, sometimes, when people SNAP and you can see their struggle, realizing they are tripping themselves up like that ? And you find yourself trying to figure out which way to help & assist ? Yap.

I decided to write about this.

There is one expression I know that fits it perfectly,.. No, first of all .. I HATE DRAMA. I don't care what it is you dealing with, but let me out of it. And so far, DRAMA SEEMS TO HATE ME, TOO. So we never see each other. Not so recently.

I know 2012 is coming up and as a cleansing process all the stinky stuff is coming up to the surface in each and every one of us as well as on planet Earth in general.
But if I would follow that thought I'd be sitting somewhere all by myself with a piece of bread and peace of mind, just in order to avoid all of it. So moving on with the topic.
Those same people who snap... Oh boy I just realized it does sound a lot like complaining, but there's a point. Hold on.. those people who snap at you

                                           THEY SUFFER THE MOST

They can't forgive themselves for what they've done, so they are embarrassed to even look at you or they are busy to make it look like it's your fault. Anyway, they're ego tripping instead of looking at their own behaviour and belief systems. And of course they would never apologize. EVER.
I had this boyfriend once, the one I've mentioned at the beginning of my writings, - and I am not lying to you -  it took him 5 DAYS to apologize for something  that happened out of  a very small communication problem. I assure you, it was not my fault  ,) but it was simple insanity .. the word overreaction is not suitable to describe what followed this jumble... The reaction was more of a stenchy explosion of words, attitude and facial expressions. Let me tell you, no horror movie could compete with that.  The smell of that stenchy mist was the kind that settles in and stays, polluting everything around. Let alone  the KIND OF ENERGY that follows it. So at some point you just see people with smudged faces everywhere. Yeah, that kind.

Oh btw. the German saying goes 'To draw the devil on the wall', meaning to be afraid of the things that aren't even there, but you expect them so much they appear to you on the wall and if they don't - you simply draw them.
Helps so much..you know.

The smelly part is the worst. People don't talk, avoid eye contact.. all kinds of stuff.
And mostly, they do know they were wrong. If they don't it's actually the worst scenario. Get out of it now.
And I mean it. You are not an accredited psychologist  - unless you are - nobody's paying you for your time and God knows what the results are gonna be like..PLEASE..

I'm not even saying APOLOGIZE, although I've mentioned it before.. But can you just not make such a big DUCKING deal out of it ?!! MOVE ON! You screamed, you crashed furniture, you slapped someone - take your time to analyse everything, but GET THE HEAVEN OVER IT ALREADY! No one can stand a person who looks stinky, because he probably feels stinky, who's behaviour is stinky and who IS STINKY in all kinds of ways as a result of it ALL the time...
Because of something that happened once. And now it's the end of the world.

                          WHAT THE BARK IS WRONG WITH YOU ?

I've heard all kinds of stories,.. They want you out of the apartment, they wouldn't give away no cigarettes no more, it is over. UNTIL ALL BECOMES NORMAL AGAIN ! Like in a week or two.
WHY WAIT for such a long time to pass ?!
What's  happened to people, becoming so rude and inattentive to each other ?!

There's always a person who can take more. The good news is, it is the person who has the POWER TO CHANGE THE WORLD. Yes, I mean it - not only and simply one particular situation or person. The world. So give yourself some credit if you find yourself being that person.
Because THE LIGHT always brightens up a darkened room. And everybody going in a dark room looks for the LIGHT, NATURALLY..
In the earlier days that someone was usually the wife . Them girls had to be supportive of every junk the man had to pull on the family, be there and never say a word against his ideas.

Women, other than men, are more bound to nature and  are mostly more in their element at home, within the family - on the Inside.  Also, inside the mind. The men, therefore, have more experience on the Outside - socially and professionally. They seem to be at their best as soon as they set one foot out of the door. Which makes me think of the antique saying

                                               'HOW WITHIN, SO WITHOUT'

because maybe that is the main principal of the family and at the same time the base for the personality that each child develops and shows off outside the family later in life. How within family, so without. The outside always mirrors the Inside.

Back to the present the submissive crowd is well spread through both gender types of the Earthy billions.
Still leaving us with the question: 'WHAT'S WRONG ?' Why those who seem to be completely out of their minds and GAGA have to mess everything up ? Although I love GAGA, her song 'Born this way' immediately comes to mind, which doesn't put me anywhere near the solution to this problem..
But why is it, that you always happen to know at least one insane person who keeps appearing in your life one way or another and YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH THAT. WHY ?
Maybe that is because there was something not intact inside of their family as they were little children. So they turned out this way. OR, regardless of their past, they are still PEOPLE WHO CAN TEACH or show others something JUST LIKE ANYONE OF US.

You see, the questioning is getting bigger here already..

Which makes me return to the point I was trying to make earlier but then forgot : WHAT IF WE REALLY ARE self representive in the personalities of those who we meet ? It would mean I am insane to a shredded fraction, right.. BUT then again, you can not possibly attract everyone into your life just because you share an attitude!!!. SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST PLAIN NUTS. And nuts is the last thing you need in your life 'cause it's contageous. It has nothing to do with YOU when people are nuts, it's their twisted brain body that causes them to be so, NOT YOU, trust me.
So LEARN YOUR LESSON QUICKLY AND LAVE, leave now unless .. forget about it, just LEAVE.

ALSO: Stop trying to change everybody and talk to them.
Some people will let you do that, some not. If you really care about yourself think twice before engaging in some sort of remedy talk - they might not get you and you'll get upset. I would take a second to think about it, though if the pattern seems to reappear in your life...

YOU CAN ONLY TRY TO HELP another in case you see clearly HOW you can do it. If you don't know that much at the moment you can always talk later. But you need a strategy and you must not forget about it. We tend to forget about things or choose not to do anything about them because they feel uncomfortable. NEVERTHELESS, CHANGE HAPPENS WHEN PEOPLE WANT & DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, so if we forget things stay the same or get worse.

It's so sad though. You see people getting in their own way sometimes, just like I did yesterday. And you need to be reallly smart not to act on your first impulses but to breathe in deeply and ponder upon your own thoughts and solutions to the problem first. Sometimes you'll, and sometimes you won't. But whatever you do, put some space and time between you and that person or situation to reflect and learn from that experience.

Because one thing I've learned is that you can't be your best in that red hot minute. Yes you can, but you have to be as skilled as an ace..
So don't be too hard on yourself or on any other participant in the story, but DO IT BETTER next time. You can PRACTICE IT over and over in your mind. Reassemble your own definitions and ask yourself one very important question:

HOW IS THIS BENIFICIAL FOR ME, THAT I ACT THE WAY I DO WHEN THE SITUATION OCCURES ? IT IS VERY IMPORTANT.


HAVE A GOOD TIME Y'ALL,

LOOVE, ME ❤
,)

                POINT: HAVE A BIG HEART AND THE WORLD WILL BENEFIT FROM IT

IS IT WORTH IT ?

                                                                    ipaintmymind.org

Do you belong to the type of people who have people from their past - recent or not- still active
in their brain ?

I caught myself having virtual conversations with some folks from the past, arguing -- and #winning lol
But that was not the point. It is, though, how far and how much we are caught up in our past and is that time making up more hours in our lives than the future ?

I've heard this statement, 'YOU CAN NOT MOVE FORWARD BY KEEPING ON LOOKING BACK',
I think it's pretty awesome, especially if you point that out using the analogy of sitting on a bike - impossible. I hate that word. It's true, you can, but it's very difficult and doesn't make it quite worthwhile.

                        EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE: but is it really worth it ?

I'm talking about people who have left the stage of your life, one way or another - what are you aiming for, repeating those times in your mind like a well known and loved video cassete ? We all attract what we think about. The phrase goes differently, in original version, but that's ok, I don't wanna repeat anything, it's my own way of saying it.  Why does it still matter to you to have those conversations ? Hoping on the possibility of changing the past ?
Winning the future ? What ?

It's stupid, that's what it is. It's one of  the bad habits of humanity. One of many. Hanging up the phone and THEN thinking you should have said better words.
I understand why people would remind themselves of the good times, looking at those pictures, smelling the smells..that's a good thing - it makes you feel better..happYer..sets you back even and puts you in that happy state again.
A child knows that things are correct because he feels happy. Isn't that wonderful ?

But why use it in a negative way ?

We do that waay too often, not realizing that we are creating our future with those thoughts, activating old energies that are useless, somehow. Why is it that we want to fight every battle to the very end ? Is that an ego thing ? Yes, I know the answer.

What are the reasons ? Still mad ?? WORSE SCENARIO. You shouldn't be. If you would spend half of the time imagining miraculous & good scenarios rather than the ones you have in your mind when someone's 5 minutes late.. Let Me tell you - it would turn around your whole life. In a positive way.

You should let go quicker, easier, that's better, it's normal. 'Are you not normal ??' the question arises.. No, it is not what I wanna emphasize on.
It's just that I'm realizing that we are born to have an easy life, that's all. It's not the plan to struggle. Get a piece of paper out, write what you have done wrong, work on the best solution - done! It'll be your script for the next time - this is how we learn.
It's necessary to learn one way or another, you choose the way. It's up to you, really.

AND  FINALLY, LET GO, PLEASE, you're doing yourself a favor with it - not anybody else, that's right, YOU!

To learn how to forgive and to let go is the emotionally wittiest 8-turns-ahead chess move you make TODAY. In the game of emotional chess or something..Actually it's an energy thing. You rid yourself of things that are not fitting YOU, AN EVEREMITTING LIGHT STRUCTURE GOD HAS CREATED HIMSELF !!!

THERE IS NO ROOM FOR darkness, apathy and insensitivity - none of the above fits.. with the idea of LIGHT. You know it deep within. Yet it is our biggest challenge to brake out of the old racetrack of thinking and brake new ground in becoming deliberately creative by consciously directing or editing a more visual and audible, broader and fuller, more saturated version of our lifes.

It's easy. Ask Charlie Sheen, he'll tell you. Not in your radius ? How about Dr. Wayne Dyer ? My thanks to him on trying. A great man, check it out yourself: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iRAewRQl_ZY

Abraham Hicks' 'YOU CAN BE, DO OR HAVE ANYTHING YOU WANT' is a very nifty statement. The key is to apply it. And it depends on the way - whether you want to apply it in a negative manor - hence the theme of this article - or in a more positive and fulfilling one that will bring you the benefits you can only dream of. And that were probably longed for by you for a very very long time..

Saw this movie 'SAY YES' ? Somewhat like that. The Universe is inclusive, too...

PLEASE DECIDE TODAY WHAT IT IS YOU CARE ABOUT  AND WOULD LIKE TO SEE IN YOUR LIFE. YES, TODAY..AAAND ACT ON IT. THAT'S RIGHT!

Told you, easy ,))

Why you think ? Oh, I donnou, maybe 'cause you get more full-filled and happy doing it ?
It's an important decision, too..

My own statement on this: 'DO THE BEST YOU CAN DO TO BECOME THE BEST YOU CAN BE'.
It pretty much wraps it up.
Follow through. Exploit your abilities in the moment, max 'em out. TAKE EVERYTHING out of the situation and do the best you can RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW, in this particular window of time and of your OWN possibilities - DO IT - as simple as that.

Now you shouldn't become evil or anything like that. I'm talking about intuitive knowledge about what you need to do when you need to do it and then simply doing it (not my words) !

I think I'm gonna have to max this out in my book ,))

HAVE FUN,

MUCH LOVE, ME ,)

No plant grows without proper care

                                                 


Ok, maybe they do, but they're not pretty. I'm talking Orchids and Amaryllises.

I'll walk you through the thought process behind it.

I felt compelled to take a walk today, it was such a sunny day here and I couldn't bare the retrospective of not having done it. So there I was, walking the whole route I am usually jogging through and I realized something.
Yesterday as I did what I call 'a forest meditation' presented by Darryl Anka, my coin was bigger and made of gold this time, but it was still the same friggin' coin with the carved image you see on a dime. There I was, wondering why.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dSUNPw1YHLU

It occured to me that perhaps the reason may lie in the people who surround me and in their words, that perpetually, yet not intentionally are blocking my growth.

I do realize that I am playing my part in it, as well.. But still, it brought me to the idea that this kind of environment is more than toxic. So if I would go somewhere where I am surrounded by like-minded, mostly positive people I would GROW and turn TO THE LIGHT, spreading my petals and aiming higher. Like I never would if I didn't see those circumstaces.
Just like a plant in its natural direction of growing.

For plants in general it means that they get clean water, are placed in a solid and nourishing ground and get the right amount of light. For people it means that they get empowerment, are always sought after, keep the right direction and are surrounded by love and care. It is then, that they - or we - get to grow high, aim high and feel the support of the universe by the people around us. They see the good in us, therefore we love, and try to see the good in ourselves. YOU GET WHAT YOU PREPARE FOR.
AND YOU ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU EXPECT.

Always try to see the good in people, remind yourself of their most favorable traits. We do not raise children to tell them one day, or on daily basis, that they are good for nothing or will never become anything, a nothing.
It hurts Me to write these words. Maybe we should give up our perfectionism and let people do their things the way they do it, maybe there is no universal law of doing things that works for everyone.
Oh and on the side note: please DO THINGS you want to do AS SOON AS you get the idea to do them - IT'S ALWAYS TOO LATE FOR LATER.

Don't let yourself to be put down or diminished. Nobody has ever grown from being degraded.
Several dictums come to my mind, one of them by A. Einstein:

                      'IF YOU JUDGE A FISH BY ITS ABILITY TO CLIMB A TREE,
                       IT WILL LIVE ITS WHOLE LIFE BELIEVING THAT IT IS STUPID'

People oftentimes laugh at others that do things they have never done or in a different way - it's obvious that it's residual scepticism of a cave man. The real wisdom lies in doing those things anyway. Because someone will always laugh, but when they see that it works, those same people adopt rather quickly to it.
WE ALL need to learn something in this lifetime and even beyond it. To look for inspiration rather than di-spiration is the way to big accomplishments. Another quote, by Babe Ruth:

                       'IT'S HARD TO BEAT A PERSON WHO NEVER GIVES UP'

                                                    NEVER GIVE UP.

                        YOU HAVE TO MOTIVATE YOURSELF. ALWAYS.

I once read in a book that when a child does something silly you should tell it will grow out of it.
That is empowerment.

So again, if you want to experience a more positive life, you have to TRAIN YOUR EXPECTATION.Towards people and situations. Do Focus Wheels - I don't care - BUT DO SOMETHING.

ALWAYS LOVE, ME.

And again, I'm reassured..

                                                                
                                                       photo by Lars Inge Gundersen

I just watched  'Married in a Year' by Patty Stanger and had to sit back for a while on that topic.
I get reassured every now and then on the things I've figured out years ago ! ..and not to mention things that are all over the internet if you just type in the right combination of words into your search machine ..!!

Thing No. 1:  MEN ARE LIKE CLAY IN YOUR HANDS.
                     YOU WANT A BETTER MAN ? MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE ONE !!!

Should I just go on with the numbers or make it a series of posts ? Hm. I'll stick with the first one for now.

No man in his right mind, who feels appreciated and loved, maybe even a little needed
WOULD EVER even THINK OF or consider to look for some OTHER GIRL to date and live with and what not.
                                                                      NOT ONE.

The thing with the right mind is tricky, because you actually attract exactly the same type of people that mirror .., well..You ! That's right, no exuses at this point are allowed to be pronounced or even thought. IT'S ALL ON YOU! This time or even FROM THIS TIME ON...!!! You think I'm kiddn' ? Well nou, I am NOT.

We all know this girl who always gets caught up with the same kind of guy and it never seems to end.
You know what I'm talking about, he doesn't treat her right, doesn't buy the right flowers, she gets upset and so on and so on. BLAH. BORING at some point.
I know one girl who likes to tell a story ölike that. She's my best friend, I love her but who are we kiddin' ?

Interesting and even more surprising point in this one is that IT ALL STARTS WITH OURSELVES.
It's the relationship you bare to yourself that is the absolute crutial and prerogatory  one to any other you might have in your life.

Patty's right.You should get off the horse and stay away from the dating scrubble for a while to figure out things about yourself and not be hasty about it.
Which only makes sense if you seriously want to rethink and restructure your life. Last thing you want to drag along is your old Papierkorb (look it up, it's German) 'cause REMEMBER: The amount of trash you bring along will fit exactly with the trash your new boy is going to take with HIM. It's pretty krass, but oh so true. You do attract people into your life with some stuff to match up yours almost exactly to make a 100% count. Listen to Connie Podesta.

If you want a nice guy with no rubbish going on behind the curtain - you better get rid of yours first.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJ1iVtNUHng

I do realize I slightly drifted off the topic here..Let's return to it now.
If you are a perfectly balanced person, you've accomplished some great things in your life, you love your job and your relationships are 99% fine - so in essence - YOU'RE HAPPY

and you've now found THE GUY to spend your life with - YOU NEED TO MAKE HIM FEEL WORTHY! APPRECIATED, SAY THANK YOU A LOT, HAVE SOME GREAT SEX and KEEP THAT ENERGY ALIVE . And never forget the person you were as you got to know each other because this is the person he fell in love with.

Great time tonight. Wish you aalll good luck and be waiting for my book, it will come out soon ,)

LOOVE, always yours, Me ,)

http://movielab.tv/watch/63699/married_in_a_year/full

Feel good. Period.

Something new.. I was thinking about how we describe how we feel with verbs - I am sleeping, I am eating etc.

But what do we really mean by that ?

Wouldn't it be more precise if we used adjectives to REALLY describe the way we feel on regular second basis? Or minute-basis, it actually doesn't take that long to realize that..

How about if we'd say 'I feel relaxed' instead of I'm falling asleep ? Or 'I'm happy' instead of  'I'm shopping' or 'doing my nails'.

There are so many things  you can use adjectives for, it's amazing.
You start seeing more clearly where you actually put yourself on the scale between happy and not happy.
If you count the words you use most to account for your inner state of mind and therefore, being.

If someone counted the words you choose to pronounce, which one would be the most frequent
AND WHERE would you put in on the feeling scale ??

THERE IS NOTHING SO IMPORTANT THAN THAT YOU FEEL GOOOOODD.

YOU ALWAYS HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE.

LOOOVE, ME
:)

P.S.: http://bit.ly/fZd8ME
        and Ashton Kutcher is the most awesome guy in this world, profoundly. :)
        although I knew about TED before ,D
        my shoutout to Simon Sinek on this topic ,),

'Nothing shows a man's character more than what he laughs at.' - Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

I just realized another thing. There is a reason people who laugh at different jokes don't understand each other, AND don't come together for a long time:

Their core beliefs are sssSSOOOo different there would be an explosion if they did.

Love, Me.

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