EVER THOUGHT OF MARRYING YOURSELF FIRST ??

 

 I can hear the protests already, but just calm down for a second, alright ?

A dear friend of mine got married last week - completely out of the blue - and posted the pictures online..
That was shocking to me ! Because she was the girl I went out clubbing in NYC and we were rocking it, to say the least - we were on top of the world ! Back in the days she was never the one who talked about settling down or finding 'the one', I guess none of us were.. But she did tell me that she got kind of tired of picking through people and that there were no good guys left in this world the last time we spoke, so.. what's so surprising ? - The brainwashed commitment to the institution of MARRIAGE.

First of all, who invented it ? Jesus was never condemned to it, was he ? Where do we get this idea from ??
My guess is - from the bible, still. The most provocative and misinterpreted book that has ever been written. The translationS are so screwed up it could mention the Kardashian sisters in it at some point.


'Do not kill' and 'Do not steal' and all of the other 'sins' are not meant to be clear instructions but rather an inscentive to ponder on the 'why'. Just stay with me on this - it'll get better ,)
Let's take stealing, for example. When you think you have to steal, you believe that you do not have something and that another has more of it or all of it, so you have to run over there, where there is more, to deprive another of it in order to become happy. Now think about this for a second. Imagine we all had to steal in order to get happy. The stuff would just move around, wouldn't it ?? Yeah, so there is actually PLENTY FOR EVERYBODY. If you don't have bread you could either get it or...make it, right ? So how do we make money and how do we get money apart from stealing it ?? Why must we not steal ?

Well, not because we get punished, explizitly. But because with our thought that we do not have enough of something we actually demonstrate our belief in lack of things and injustice. But BELIEF can move mountains, can't it ? Of course, depending on how strong it is. So the actual punishnent is the life you will lead according to those beliefs. I can not stretch this right now just to stay on the main topic but you are welcome to tweet & comment. This example should simply demonstrate the false premises of the interpretations of any written material. In this case - the bible.

My point is, just because someone sat down one day and invented the marriage for the purpose of  the divorce case money lottery with a spurious drapery of  benefits as the dangling carrot doesn't mean you have to follow that lead, people ! Yes, I mean you - don't you see that ?


Where are the independant & bright people who are able to make a contribution to this world and live a happy life without doing what every other person does ?

How about CELEBRATING YOU AND YOUR VALUES AND MAKE VOWLS TO YOURSELF instead of putting a lifelong commitment on somebody else TO MAKE YOU HAPPY ? Because if that's what marriage is, I don't want it. And who cares who I'm involved with, anyway ?


Men are smarter, they discovered a long time ago that this doughnut's ingredients have long expired.
Bachelors like George Clooney understand that they can be happy without a personal leash around their neck. And let's face it, marriage is limiting. But maybe that's the kind of marriage that is dying out so a new one can emerge out of a centuries long struggle lived by so many. I, for myself, still believe in life without it.


Oh don't get me wrong, I see the benefits of a relationship and cherishing each other and, of course, love and I do understand that you might actually love someone so much that you want to go all the way, officially  and have no second thoughts about putting the last seal on your lives, but... WHY ?

Life has so much more to offer...


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